Posted by: Aaron McCarter | November 11, 2008

…on gay marriage

I got an e-mail this afternoon from someone asking about my thoughts on gay marriage.  My response is below.  I’m not sure that I followed the evangelical company line.  So what do you think?  Am I a heretic?


Thanks for contacting me.  I’d be happy to share some of my thoughts, but I’ll first give the disclaimer that I often struggle with political apathy, and as a result my thoughts are often rough and undeveloped.  That being said, I’m not sure that my thoughts should carry much weight.  That’s not false-humility, I assure you.

The source of my political apathy, is that while i honor our governing authorities, I believe we must all submit to the highest authority, which of course is our God.  That vantage point colors my perspective on gay marriage.  I believe that marriage is a holy and spiritual union.  In God’s wisdom he established marriage and the home as the first institution.  Not the state, not even the church…it was marriage and the home.  In the Garden of Eden God gave away the first bride and performed the first marriage ceremony.  I don’t see marriage as a legal institution.  It’s a spiritual institution which happens to have legal ramifications.   The definition of marriage, therefore, is tied to God’s perspective, not the law’s.

The Bible is perfectly clear and unflinching about homosexuality.  It’s a sin.  So does God honor gay marriage?  No.  Is gay marriage a holy institution? No.  Marriage was God’s idea, so he defines it, not us.  What that really means is there is no such thing as gay marriage.  Not in God’s eyes.  The only eyes that really matter.

I don’t mean to sound harsh…but I don’t much care what the government calls it.  The gov’t issues contracts, God issues covenants.  No matter what the gov’t calls their contracts, they can’t institute the holy covenant of marriage.  that’s God’s job.  God doesn’t institute gay marriage.  The gov’t could declare my marriage to be null and void, and tear up our legal contract…but Sharon would still be my wife.  She wouldn’t be any less my wife than she is now, because God says we’re married. That’s final.

I don’t think that anyone should be discriminated against.  If we took rights from all the people who had sins in their lives, we’d all be out of luck.  So, once again, here comes my political apathy: give them all of their rights, and let them call it what they want–because ultimately God sanctions marriage, and he says no.  We can’t change that, so it doesn’t much matter what we call it.

What I wish is that the sin of homosexuality wasn’t so rampant so as to make this such an issue.  What I really wish is that the church would stop barking and fussing about what the gov’t calls its contracts, and put all of that energy and money into loving people with our whole hearts, and teaching them about Jesus.  Jesus: the one who sets us free from our sin, and saves our souls!

Does that make sense?  I promise I’m not trying to dodge the question…I just have a little different perspective on it.

…if you have any follow-up questions or thoughts, pass ’em on!

Running the Race,



  1. I don’t think you can explain it any better than that and I couldn’t agree more. If you’re a heretic for that I’ll sit in that boat with you. I saw an interesting interview the other day. A gay man in California voted against legalizing gay marriage for much the same reason. He said that marriage is a spiritual thing and he’s not interested in it. He wants to be treated fairly but doesn’t care if the church recognizes his relationships or not. He said the Christians can keep their marriage. Its funny that I agreed with him more than the preacher they interviewed right after him.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s


%d bloggers like this: